Week 2 ~ LIE: I'm not beautiful

What is beauty?


What do you find beautiful?

God calls us Beloved! We are His Cinderella!

The king is enthralled by your beauty;
honor him, for he is your lord.
Psalm 45:11
Enthralled= filled with wonder and delight, captivated, enslaved!
What do you believe about yourself?
 A More Beautiful You

While we were chatting, I turned on the song “Love Story,” and you all got excited and started singing along right? Think about that song! We all love that song b/c we want someone to find us beautiful and that will knell to ground and pull out a ring!!!!  We all want a love story. Now think about that story and that boy you were thinking about… whoever that is… replace him with JESUS!


Does that seem weird? Seem wrong to think of Jesus like that?

Well He calls us His Beloved, His love, His BRIDE!!!! That’s crazy!!! Jesus is our groom, our fiance! That’s awesome!! All the longings we have to have a boyfriend, to be called beautiful, to have someone fight for us, JESUS can do it all!!!!

God longs for you! He enjoys you! He wants you give your WHOLE heart to Him, including your insecurities, passions, dreams, longings, problems, doubt!

What insecurities do you have about yourself?? Be honest!

Look around the room. Do you see anyone who is ugly? Who God did a bad job on? NO!!! (Name specific things that are beautiful about each person!) What do you find most beautiful about another girl?? I FIND JOY THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING!

What do you see about yourself? How do you identify yourself? We always think Cinderella is someone else!

We are more concerned about being beautiful on the outside and not on the inside.

YOUR WORTH IS NOT BASED ON HOW YOU LOOK!!!!!!!!! PERIOD!!! There is nothing wrong with being beautiful until it becomes prideful. Like the pageant some of you were in. There is nothing wrong with getting dressed up and feeling beautiful until it becomes WHO YOU ARE! Giving WAY TOO much attention to physical beauty (how long do you stand in front of a mirror everyday?)

³Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. ⁴Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. ⁵For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.
1 Peter 3:3-5

1 Timothy 2:9-10

Gentle and quiet spirit does NOT mean doesn’t talk and isn’t loud!!!!! Thank God! It means a heart of faith, a heart that trusts God, a spirit that has been quieted by His love and filled with his peace!

God thinks you are INCREDIBLY BEAUTIFUL. He knows you completely and sees all of you, and still calls you beautiful! He SEES YOU! HE NOTICES EVERYTHING YOU DO! Why try to become satisfied in ANYTHING else??

Are you using things to hide the true beauty God gave you? Are you HIDING behind make-up, activities, friends, etc? (make-up is not a BAD thing unless you are using it to hide who you really are!) Are you afraid of people knowing you’re true beauty and who you really are? Are you pretending?

We always focus on the negative things about ourselves when God wrote a love letter of 100s of pages to US!!

Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting but a women who fears the Lord is to be Praised
Proverbs 31:30

We should have holy beauty! Our beauty should draw others to Christ!


*ACTIVITY*
Take the girls' pictures. Print two copies out, 8x10 or 5x7 (if 5x7, paste onto larger paper). Give the girls both of their pictures. On one picture have them write all the things THEY think about themselves, good or bad (big pimple, fat, thin, cute, unwanted...).  On the other picture have them write the things that GOD says about them. This is a REALLY powerful exercise that they can keep as a reminder of WHO and WHOSE they are.